Sunday, August 22, 2010

50 Secrets To Blissful Relationships - Book Review

Let's face it, there are thousands of marriage counselors and millions of relationship self-help books. So what makes 50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships by Michael Webb any different?

Let's find out.

First of all, it's great to see that, unlike many other authors, Michael Webb let's you inside his world. You get real-life examples of ways to solve relationship challenges, all based on his own personal life.

Second, unlike many other “experts” and marriage counselors, Michael Webb walks the walk. Michael Webb has never had a fight with his wife of 15 years, Athena. 


   Inside this book, you learn exactly what he's done to make this a reality. Everything you read, he does or has done to improve his relationship, and that's what I really wanted to see - experience and real-life practice.

The book itself is simply set out with about one tip per day and just continues like this until the end of the book. Just about every tip had me shaking my head in agreement, as it gave me real-life solutions and several of those “a-ha” moments of profound understanding.

The only real down side of the book is that every tip is set out with the same formula: story or unrelated example, followed by how that example ties into relationships and that exact topic.

If you're impatient or in a hurry, you can always start about halfway down and find out exactly what point he's trying to make.

Also, instead of the tip titles providing a clear “how to solve X problem” or a clear topic description, it simply has a phrase that ties together with the information. Now while this is no big deal, it would have been nice to be able to skim the book to exactly the advice I wanted. Although if you read the information on the sales page, you can work out what information belongs where in the book. So it's not too bad.

All in all, this is one of the best relationship books I've ever seen and it definitely deserves a read, especially if you have serious problems in your relationship.

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How To Win Ex Girlfriend Back FOREVER

If you want to know how to win ex girlfriend back, you are probably wanting to know how to win your ex-girlfriend back forever. You went through the pain once and you probably don't want to go through it again. You made mistakes, now it's time to take a step back and evaluate the situation and figure out where to go from this point. Learning how to win ex girlfriend back may mean that you have to change the way you do things. You will have to take a FOREVER approach.

Fouled Up:

Admit that you did it. Admit that you made mistakes that cost you this relationship. You have to be able to own up to your mistakes and that means you have to own them. They were your mistakes, not anyone else's. Admit it. This is the best place to start if you want to know how to win ex girlfriend back.

Look At Yourself Objectively: 

Take a good long look at who you are and what was it about you that caused this to happen. Were your mistakes a symptom of a bigger problem that you have? If it was, find out what it was. Look for the bigger picture.

Regret What Happened:

There are some who will tell you to regret nothing. That is incredibly bad advice. If you made a mistake that hurt someone, you should feel regret and guilt. You should feel even worse if it was someone that you love.

Evaluate the Situation:


Assess the damage done. One of the things that people have to do when they are trying to rebuild something that was destroyed is to look around and see what just happened. Once the source of the destruction (your mistakes) has been identified it's time to see what remains. Is there anything worth saving left? Is there enough left that can be built back? Hopefully there is still a foundation left and the damage wasn't so much that there is nothing left to rebuild. You will have to do this if you want to know how to win ex girlfriend back.

Verify That You Have A Chance:

You may be totally dedicated to trying and put things back together but your ex girlfriend may not be. It is hard to win back your ex if they have no desire to bring the love or the relationship back. If they have decided to move on, there may be nothing you can do about it. That is the reality of the situation, that your actions and mistakes may have consequences that involve you losing your girlfriend forever.

Engage In Dialogue:

If your ex girlfriend is willing to talk about anything at all, let it happen. You may have to endure her venting on you and blasting who you are and letting you know how big the mistakes were that you made. This is no time to get defensive.
Hopefully these were all things that you realized on your own but hearing it may give you more resolve to correct those mistakes.

Respect:

Respect what she says. Respect her feelings. Respect her wishes. Treat her with respect.

It may be tough to do but if you really want to know how to win ex girlfriend back forever, you will have to take your  medicine.

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Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Dealing With A Painful Break-up



Vb>Dealing with break up pain, any way that you look at it, is not going to be an easy or enjoyable task.Many of people incorrectly believe that they will be able to manage their heartbreak, only to find out that carrying a torch for someone after a love affair is a lot like grieving, at least if you look at the relationship as having passed on. When it comes to dealing with a broken intimate relationship, it is important that you look past the pain and find a way to survive even when things seem impossible for the time being.

Relationship breakup puts a lot of people through fear and misery. Some of the people going through these feelings have no one in the world to turn to, and this is why people suffer so hard from heartbreak in the first place.

Dealing with break up pain all by yourself can seem impossible at first, but consider how many people deal with love and loss in their lives and survive to talk about it. You too will be able to get over what feels like a crippling break up, but only if you are willing to deal with heartbreak pain the right way, and the healthy way for that matter.

So why is the pain from a lost love break up so difficult to deal with/

Because when dealing with a break up, it will seem as if you are the only one who has suffered the kind of pain you’re going through. It is important that you continue to try to heal rather than allowing yourself to give up on the situation.

Dwelling on the painful split from your lover will not help you, so instead you should work on getting better and moving on.Doing so will allow you to stop dealing with break up pain and start dealing with moving on and finding someone new, perhaps even someone that has a better dynamic with you.

* Spend time with your friends and let them help you get your mind off your heartbreak.

* Don't dwell on the bad feelings, but focus on the good parts of your life in order to promote healing.

Your friends will probably realize that you're going through something serious, and they will more than likely dedicate themselves to trying to help you through it. If this is the case, don't blow them off, because going out and spending time with your friends and the people that you care about will be extremely helpful when it comes to dealing with break up pain.

Everyone goes through a period where they are dealing with break up pain, because everyone goes through a breakup. Rather than allow yourself to suffer while dealing with breaking up pain, what you should do is enjoy yourself and work on healing rather than allowing yourself to become stressed out, overwhelmed or depressed by your heartbreak.

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I Want My Husband Back - 5 Helpful Tips



“I want my husband back” is the cry of many women who have seen their marriage start to crumble. It happens often times quietly and slowly and before you know it the marriage looks like it is coming to an end. If you aren't willing to let your marriage die, if you aren't willing to let it fall apart right before your very eyes, then do something about it. Here are some things that can help you get that love back when "I want my husband back."

1.Realize that it wasn't just you and it wasn't just him. It was the both of you. If you are willing to make changes in the way you approach the marriage, your husband might be willing to. Some of it comes down to the way you look at the situation.

2.Realize that it wasn't all one person who is at fault. “It takes two to tango” the saying goes. The same thing is true in any relationship. It isn't just one person that makes it work and it isn't just one person that causes it to fall apart. Don't put all of the weight on your shoulders and don't put it all on your husband's. Pull your weight and encourage him by example to pull his own in trying to make things right.

3.Start with where you are in life and see where you are in life. Look at what it is that makes you happy and drives you. Look for the same thing with your husband. Try to find common ground. If there is love there, you will find that common ground.

4.Once you have found that common ground, try to find some way to use that to your advantage. If there is something that brings the two of you joy, try to find some way for the two of you to experience it together. Let it seem like a spontaneous thought and try to make it seem like it is his idea. Try and generate some excitement about it. Don't go over board with the excitement, though.

5.When you are doing the things that the both of you love, let him know how special you think he is and how much you appreciate him. Let him know that you miss what you used to have. Let him know how you feel. It is easier to have those feelings reciprocated when you are both having fun doing something you love. Don't be afraid to tell him, "I want my husband back." You may just find out he wants the same thing.

You have to know that it may not be possible to get back the relationship to the level it was when it was at it's peak. Just because "I want my husband back" doesn't mean that it is the best thing to get it back to the way that it was. You should believe, though, that what you saw as the high point of your relationship doesn't have to be the all time high point. The best in life is still to come if you are willing to do the work that you need to do. Tell yourself, "I want my husband back, but I want the relationship back stronger than ever" and then work to make it happen.

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Monday, August 16, 2010

Getting CPR For Marriage In Crisis



A marriage in crisis is difficult to handle as it seems that what was once full of life is now suffering and on the brink of dying. When you are dating, new love seems to have a life of it's own. Everything being so new feels like a new life has begun has the two of you have started a “new life” together.

When you get married, it seems like everything just falls into place and everything makes sense. When times get tough, though, and and the marriage begins to struggle it can seem like the new life is starting to get old and may die out. If you aren't ready for your life together to die, your marriage in crisis may need to get C.P.R.

Get Counseling:

One of the most underutilized and overlooked opportunities for a marriage in crisis is getting marriage counseling. Marriage counseling will go a long ways towards helping you not only find resolution to your conflicts but will help the two of you find ways to grow closer together. Marriage counseling will help you be better able to understand each other.

Marriage counseling will also help you find better ways to express yourself in such a way that you don't come across as attacking each other. It could very well be, though, that one of you has some serious issues that is putting your love and relationship at risk. For those issues you may want to get therapy on your own. It may be hard to do because you will have to swallow your pride but if you are serious about saving the marriage in crisis, you will want and need to do this.

Get Perspective:

For a marriage in crisis, one of the most important thing that needs to be done is to get some perspective on what is happening. This is one area that a marriage counselor will be helpful because it will help you to look at things and situations from other perspective.

From where you are standing things may look pretty clear. However, once you are able to see from another angle, things that you couldn't understand before may make a lot of sense. Getting perspectives from other angles and vantage points will really be helpful in helping you fully understand what is happening so that you can then save the marriage in crisis.

Get Resolve:

Once you have been able to get some perspective on the crisis at hand and are getting counseling, you will have a lot of information and ideas to go off of. Those will help repair the damage that is done IF you are able to act on it. Knowing is half the battle but no battle half fought was ever won.

If you see a drowning person and you not only know how to swim but know CPR and are trained in first aid, you may know everything you need to know to help save that person's life. Will that knowledge save them? Only if it is acted upon.

The same thing is true with your marriage. It just takes you acting upon it and getting resolved the issues that were killing your marriage. A marriage in crisis can only be saved if you act to make things better.

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Wednesday, July 21, 2010

To Much to Do? Too Little Time?

Tips to Become Happier & More Empowered

By Aurelia Williams, author of Journey to Joy

Hey - Did someone press the FFW button?

Have you ever felt like someone just pressed the Fast-forward button on your day and before you know it the day is over and you are sitting there wondering what you've accomplished?

I love to organize and with working Part Time outside of the home and FULL-TIME at home with my business, 4 children and Husband I really rely on a schedule and many time management tips to keep my sanity (ok, so some of you think I am already insane, I won't argue with that) but at least I am organized ;)

Here are a few of my favorite Time management Tips (these are just a few of the tips I share with my Journey to Joy students):

1. Meal Planning: Try planning 1 - 2 weeks worth of meals at a time and write them down on a calendar. Do your shopping accordingly and prep tomorrows dinner today. You will be AMAZED at what a time saver this is.

2. To-Do Lists: I know most people HATE them but they actually do work. Just take a few moments out of your day (either in the morning or in the evening) to make a list for that day or the following day. Be sure to only put down the items that you MUST finish on this list.

3. Delegate: Do you have friends, a husband, children that can pitch in and do a few things for you? If so, be sure to use all of your resources.

4. Morning Rush: Scooting the children out of the door can be a huge time eater! Be sure to prepare lunches, lay out clothes and plan your breakfast the night before. This will make your mornings run a tad smoother.

5. Just say "NO"!: Such a small word that carries a might punch! If you truly can't fit something into your schedule and it is not urgent, just say No!. Keep a list of non-urgent things that you can do on hand for when you do have some down time.

Well, those are just a few of my time management tips. I personally set aside about 15 minutes a night and sit down with my Palm Pilot and make a short TO-DO list for the following day and it is amazing at the time this save.

Also be mindful of your own body. Are you a morning, afternoon or night person? Try to schedule your most time consuming tasks when you have the most energy.

Take Care!

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Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Book Review: Teen In High School

Product: Real Life Guidance to Helping Your Teen in High School
Rating: 9
Where to Buy: Real Life Guidance Website 




Description: A very straightforward report on how to help your child make it through those high school years. This informative report gives you insight from helping your teenager figure out who they are to dealing with bullies and peer pressure.

Review: Being a parent can have it's ups and downs. It is not easy and unfortunately they do not come with a manual. In my day, you either asked your own parents for help, a good friend, or just had to wing it and hope in the end you did the right thing.

For today’s parents there are many opportunities available to help with certain types of situations and most parents are willing to look for and find the information they need. If you’re looking for some guidance in helping your teenager make it through high school then you need to pick up a copy.

This guidance is some of the best I have read. The author, Aurelia Williams, gets right to point of the matter and leaves nothing to chance. With experience herself she knows and has used this information with her own children. It had to have worked because as honest as this report is I would never imagine her giving it to anyone else if it didn’t.

Dealing with a teenager can be very stressful. First off, they are a teenager and have no idea what is going on in their mind or with their bodies. If that’s not enough they also have to deal with other teenagers who are going through the same things. I didn’t have a clue how to help my children at this age. As I was reading this report I found myself saying things like, "Yes, that would have worked! Why didn't I think of that?"

This report deals with helping your teenager find out who they are. To me that’s probably the most important part of a teenager’s life. It’s not easy. How many of us still don’t have a clue who we are? With the information in this report you can help set your child on their way to figuring this out and being proud of who they are and what they stand for.

It also gives you some insight into how to help your teen deal with some pretty tough things. Things such as peer pressure and the bullies they might be facing in their school. It even goes into dealing with relationships and how to handle dates and the dating rules you set as a parent.

Helping Your Teen is High School is just full of great information on helping your child through their high school years. Even if you don’t have a teenager yet this report can help you. If you're like me, your teenagers are grown and on their own but I needed it to be able to deal with my grandchildren and the things they will be going through as a teenager. I’m really glad I have this report and it will come in very handy when it’s Grandma’s time to help.
 






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Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Tips to Become Happier & More Empowered

By Aurelia Williams, author of Journey to Joy

In a search for happiness, many people look for it in other people and not within ourselves. Many people feel that things like money, a better job, better relationships..etc will make them happy. In reality, to find true contentment you must look inside yourself and learn to be your own best friend. That means you have to trust, love, and care for yourself just as you do the people you consider to be close to you.

Following are steps that you can incorporate into your life that will help you to feel more empowered and happy about yourself! These are just some of the many practical strategies I provide to my Journey to Joy students:

Begin to lift yourself up, not put yourself down. If you don't like something about yourself, work to change it. If you can't change it, simply accept it. Don't beat up on yourself with negative self-talk. You're not likely to change for the better when you fill yourself with negative thoughts.

Give yourself positive rewards. When you do something that you are proud of give yourself a small reward. Try not to wait for others to praise you because you may grow resentful if the praise doesn't come. Pat your own back, it is a great feeling that can stay with you for a long time.

Forgive yourself. I doubt that you would keep scolding a child over and over for making a mistake so don't do that to yourself. Give yourself the gift of forgiveness when you make a mistake. After that, work to figure out what lesson you can learn, and use it to make better choices the next time around.

Enjoy your successes. Most people can remember all of the details of depressing, painful or even embarrassing events that happened many years ago. What if you did the same thing with all of your wins? Try to remember all of the triumphs and accomplishments that you've made and keep that memory with you and think about it at least once a week.

Always remember to celebrate your wonderful qualities! You will soon discover that the more you love yourself, the more you will be able to give love to others - and the more others will be able to love you!

Next Steps:

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Monday, July 12, 2010

Colognes and Men in Love

Men who find themselves smitten can find a scent that exudes their feelings. Cologne comes in a wide variety of scents. Truly, fragrance can spin a woman from cold to hot, depending on the scent. Some male colognes can emit sensuality that makes the wearer more attractive to the woman they happen to be courting. The right perfume could also boost the wearer’s confidence level, which can only help a man‘s passion. It is imperative to find a scent that suits your personality. Obviously, if you are not comfortable with the scent, it will show. It could put you in the wrong mood. Finding something that adds confidence so you can sweep your loved one of her feet is essential.

Versace Blue Jeans is a wonderful aroma which is great for the man in love. It combines scents of the forest, peppery citrus, and gentle violet to form a classic man in love fragrance. Both sexy and passionate, this aroma is great for day wear. This moderate intensity cologne can last up to five hours. Since the fragrance only costs between $20 and $30, this aroma is great for any budget. Make your woman swoon by wearing this invigorating aroma.

Curve for Men by Liz Arden is another interesting aroma for those men who are in love. Sensual definitely describes this aromatic effusion. A mix of sandalwood, cedar, lavender, musk, and citrus, this matchless fragrance exudes sexuality. Curve is a fragrance which could be used day or night for amazing sex appeal. A 2.5 ounce container will only set you back around $18 to $20, so you can save some cash for your honey bunny. An alternative rendering, Curve Crush, comes at a better price and has a small difference, but still exudes sex. Other varieties of this aroma are Curve Wave, Curve Soul, and Curve Kicks.

Women will also find Joop irresistible. Men in love can succeed in romance when sporting this romantic aroma. This sensually smelling fragrance infuses piquant aromas with bergamot, cinnamon, flowery aromas, vanilla, musk, and sexy woods. This temperate aroma is wonderful for fiery nights on the town or hushed evenings with your lady. A 2.5 ounce container will set you back between $30 $35. Other aromatic Joop varieties include Go and Jump.
Exude passion by wearing a scent like Acqua di Gio. A mixture of marine tones, fruits, herbs, basil, jasmine, scented woods, and citrus, this cologne will boost your libido. Day or night can be the precise time for wearing this seductive scent. Depending on the retailer, you could spend between $40 to $70 for a 3.4 ounce bottle of this passionate scent.

Men in love have no reason to fear. There are many scents and cologne notes which will show your love for that special someone. Your tastes and your lady’s tastes both matter. You need a scent that you like and are rich with woody and musk notes, but that turns her on. Passion is just a spray away when you are in the mood for romance and men cologne is the trigger.
About the author: Sarah Harvey is an author writing about fragrance related topics, and you are invited to visit her website at http://www.perfumemode.com covering number of aspects about perfumes & men colognes.
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Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Panic Attack Video

Panic attack can strike when you least expect it!!


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Causes of Panic Attacks



The short and obvious answer: panic attacks are caused by high anxiety. But, what exactly is anxiety? Understanding how anxiety crops up will help you defeat panic attacks.
One of the biggest myths surrounding anxiety is that it is harmful and can lead to a number of various life-threatening conditions.

Definition of Anxiety

Anxiety is defined as a state of apprehension or fear resulting from the anticipation of a real or imagined threat, event, or situation. It is one of the most common human emotions experienced by people at some point in their lives.
However, most people who have never experienced a panic attack, or extreme anxiety, fail to realize the terrifying nature of the experience. Extreme dizziness, blurred vision, tingling and feelings of breathlessness—and that’s just the tip of the iceberg!

When these sensations occur and people do not understand why, they feel they have contracted an illness, or a serious mental condition. The threat of losing complete control seems very real and naturally very terrifying.

Fight/Flight Response: One of the root causes of panic attacks?

I am sure most of you have heard of the fight/flight response as an explanation for one of the root causes of panic attacks. Have you made the connection between this response and the unusual sensations you experience during and after a panic attack episode?

Anxiety is a response to a danger or threat. It is so named because all of its effects are aimed toward either fighting or fleeing from the danger. Thus, the sole purpose of anxiety is to protect the individual from harm. This may seem ironic given that you no doubt feel your anxiety is actually causing you great harm…perhaps the most significant of all the causes of panic attacks.

However, the anxiety that the fight/flight response created was vital in the daily survival of our ancient ancestors—when faced with some danger, an automatic response would take over that propelled them to take immediate action such as attack or run. Even in today’s hectic world, this is still a necessary mechanism. It comes in useful when you must respond to a real threat within a split second.
Anxiety is a built-in mechanism to protect us from danger. Interestingly, it is a mechanism that protects but does not harm—an important point that will be elaborated upon later.

The Physical Manifestations of a Panic Attack: Other pieces of the puzzle to understand the causes of panic attacks. Nervousness and Chemical Effects…
When confronted with danger, the brain sends signals to a section of the nervous system. It is this system that is responsible for gearing the body up for action and also calms the body down and restores equilibrium. To carry out these two vital functions, the autonomic nervous system has two subsections, the sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system.

Although I don’t want to become too “scientific,” having a basic understanding of the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system will help you understand the causes of panic attacks.
The sympathetic nervous system is the one we tend to know all too much about because it primes our body for action, readies us for the “fight or flight” response, while the parasympathetic nervous system is the one we love dearly as it serves as our restoring system, which returns the body to its normal state.

When either of these systems is activated, they stimulate the whole body, which has an “all or nothing” effect. This explains why when a panic attack occurs, the individual often feels a number of different sensations throughout the body.
The sympathetic system is responsible for releasing the adrenaline from the adrenal glands on the kidneys. These are small glands located just above the kidneys. Less known, however, is that the adrenal glands also release adrenaline, which functions as the body’s chemical messengers to keep the activity going. When a panic attack begins, it does not switch off as easily as it is turned on. There is always a period of what would seem increased or continued anxiety, as these messengers travel throughout the body. Think of them as one of the physiological causes of panic attacks, if you will.

After a period of time, the parasympathetic nervous system gets called into action. Its role is to return the body to normal functioning once the perceived danger is gone. The parasympathetic system is the system we all know and love, because it returns us to a calm relaxed state.

When we engage in a coping strategy that we have learned, for example, a relaxation technique, we are in fact willing the parasympathetic nervous system into action. A good thing to remember is that this system will be brought into action at some stage whether we will it or not. The body cannot continue in an ever-increasing spiral of anxiety. It reaches a point where it simply must kick in, relaxing the body. This is one of the many built-in protection systems our bodies have for survival.

You can do your best with worrying thoughts, keeping the sympathetic nervous system going, but eventually it stops. In time, it becomes a little smarter than us, and realizes that there really is no danger. Our bodies are incredibly intelligent—modern science is always discovering amazing patterns of intelligence that run throughout the cells of our body. Our body seems to have infinite ways of dealing with the most complicated array of functions we take for granted. Rest assured that your body’s primary goal is to keep you alive and well.

Not so convinced?

Try holding your breath for as long as you can. No matter how strong your mental will is, it can never override the will of the body. This is good news—no matter how hard you try to convince yourself that you are gong to die from a panic attack, you won’t. Your body will override that fear and search for a state of balance. There has never been a reported incident of someone dying from a panic attack.

Remember this next time you have a panic attack; he causes of panic attacks cannot do you any physical harm. Your mind may make the sensations continue longer than the body intended, but eventually everything will return to a state of balance. In fact, balance (homeostasis) is what our body continually strives for.
The interference for your body is nothing more than the sensations of doing rigorous exercise. Our body is not alarmed by these symptoms. Why should it be? It knows its own capability. It’s our thinking minds that panic, which overreact and scream in sheer terror! We tend to fear the worst and exaggerate our own sensations. A quickened heart beat becomes a heart attack. An overactive mind seems like a close shave with schizophrenia.

Is it our fault? Not really—we are simply diagnosing from poor information.

Cardiovascular Effects Activity in the sympathetic nervous system increases our heartbeat rate, speeds up the blood flow throughout the body, ensures all areas are well supplied with oxygen and that waste products are removed. This happens in order to prime the body for action.

A fascinating feature of the “fight or flight” mechanism is that blood (which is channelled from areas where it is currently not needed by a tightening of the blood vessels) is brought to areas where it is urgently needed.
For example, should there be a physical attack, blood drains from the skin, fingers, and toes so that less blood is lost, and is moved to “active areas” such as the thighs and biceps to help the body prepare for action.
This is why many feel numbness and tingling during a panic attack-often misinterpreted as some serious health risk-such as the precursor to a heart attack. Interestingly, most people who suffer from anxiety often feel they have heart problems. If you are really worried that such is the case with your situation, visit your doctor and have it checked out. At least then you can put your mind at rest.

Respiratory Effects

One of the scariest effects of a panic attack is the fear of suffocating or smothering. It is very common during a panic attack to feel tightness in the chest and throat. I’m sure everyone can relate to some fear of losing control of your breathing. From personal experience, anxiety grows from the fear that your breathing itself would cease and you would be unable to recover. Can a panic attack stop our breathing? No.

A panic attack is associated with an increase in the speed and depth of breathing. This has obvious importance for the defense of the body since the tissues need to get more oxygen to prepare for action. The feelings produced by this increase in breathing, however, can include breathlessness, hyperventilation, sensations of choking or smothering, and even pains or tightness in the chest. The real problem is that these sensations are alien to us, and they feel unnatural.

Having experienced extreme panic attacks myself, I remember that on many occasions, I would have this feeling that I couldn’t trust my body to do the breathing for me, so I would have to manually take over and tell myself when to breathe in and when to breathe out. Of course, this didn’t suit my body’s requirement of oxygen and so the sensations would intensify—along with the anxiety. It was only when I employed the technique I will describe for you later, did I let the body continue doing what it does best—running the whole show.

Importantly, a side-effect of increased breathing, (especially if no actual activity occurs) is that the blood supply to the head is actually decreased. While such a decrease is only a small amount and is not at all dangerous, it produces a variety of unpleasant but harmless symptoms that include dizziness, blurred vision, confusion, sense of unreality, and hot flushes.

Other Physical Effects of Panic Attacks:
Now that we’ve discussed some of the primary physiological causes of panic attacks, there are a number of other effects that are produced by the activation of the sympathetic nervous system, none of which are in any way harmful.

For example, the pupils widen to let in more light, which may result in blurred vision, or “seeing” stars, etc. There is a decrease in salivation, resulting in dry mouth. There is decreased activity in the digestive system, which often produces nausea, a heavy feeling in the stomach, and even constipation. Finally, many of the muscle groups tense up in preparation for “fight or flight” and this results in subjective feelings of tension, sometimes extending to actual aches and pains, as well as trembling and shaking.

Overall, the fight/flight response results in a general activation of the whole bodily metabolism. Thus, one often feels hot and flushed and, because this process takes a lot of energy, the person generally feels tired and drained.

Mental Manifestations: Are the causes of panic attacks all in my head? is a question many people wonder to themselves.

The goal of the fight/flight response is making the individual aware of the potential danger that may be present. Therefore, when activated, the mental priority is placed upon searching the surroundings for potential threats. In this state one is highly-strung, so to speak. It is very difficult to concentrate on any one activity, as the mind has been trained to seek all potential threats and not to give up until the threat has been identified. As soon as the panic hits, many people look for the quick and easiest exit from their current surroundings, such as by simply leaving the bank queue and walking outside. Sometimes the anxiety can heighten, if we perceive that leaving will cause some sort of social embarrassment.

If you have a panic attack while at the workplace but feel you must press on with whatever task it is you are doing, it is quite understandable that you would find it very hard to concentrate. It is quite common to become agitated and generally restless in such a situation. Many individuals I have worked with who have suffered from panic attacks over the years indicated that artificial light—such as that which comes from computer monitors and televisions screens—can can be one of the causes of panic attacks by triggering them or worsen a panic attack, particularly if the person is feeling tired or run down.

This is worth bearing in mind if you work for long periods of time on a computer. Regular break reminders should be set up on your computer to remind you to get up from the desk and get some fresh air when possible.

In other situations, when during a panic attack an outside threat cannot normally be found, the mind turns inwards and begins to contemplate the possible illness the body or mind could be suffering from. This ranges from thinking it might have been something you ate at lunch, to the possibility of an oncoming cardiac arrest.
The burning question is: Why is the fight/flight response activated during a panic attack even when there is apparently nothing to be frightened of?

Upon closer examination of the causes of panic attacks, it would appear that what we are afraid of are the sensations themselves—we are afraid of the body losing control. These unexpected physical symptoms create the fear or panic that something is terribly wrong. Why do you experience the physical symptoms of the fight/flight response if you are not frightened to begin with? There are many ways these symptoms can manifest themselves, not just through fear.

For example, it may be that you have become generally stressed for some reason in your life, and this stress results in an increase in the production of adrenaline and other chemicals, which from time to time, would produce symptoms….and which you perceive as the causes of panic attacks.

This increased adrenaline can be maintained chemically in the body, even after the stress has long gone. Another possibility is diet, which directly affects our level of stress. Excess caffeine, alcohol, or sugar is known for causing stress in the body, and is believed to be one of the contributing factors of the causes of panic attacks (Chapter 5 gives a full discussion on diet and its importance).

Unresolved emotions are often pointed to as possible trigger of panic attacks, but it is important to point out that eliminating panic attacks from your life does not necessarily mean analyzing your psyche and digging into your subconscious. The “One Move” technique will teach you to deal with the present moment and defuse the attack along with removing the underlying anxiety that sparks the initial anxiety.


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Barry Joe McDonagh is an international panic disorder coach. His informative site on all issues related to panic and anxiety attacks can be found here: http://www.panicportal.com
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Yeast Infection Knowledge - The Truth Behind Your Yeast Infection

Educating yourself about your candida infection is the first and most important step in curing this painful, annoying and relatively dangerous chronic condition and taking responsibility over your health and well-being.

Although yeast infection (known by the names of Candida, Monilia or Thrush) is in fact a very common condition, (as three out of four women develop it at some point in their lifetimes), it is little discussed. Most people regard candida infection as a ‘on the surface’ problem that should be treated with creams and antibiotics whereas few are aware of its potentially risky complications.

Yeast Infection is first and foremost an internal problem. Like most chronic conditions, there is never one cause for this fungal problem and thus yeast infection cannot be permanently eliminated using medications or creams that work superficially and fail to tackle the root factors that trigger the formation of candida infection in the first place.

The problem is that the majority of yeast infection sufferers choose to leave it in the hands of others: Doctors, pharmacists, drug and over the counter industries. They willingly choose NOT to take responsibility for their candida condition, for their health and for their own body.

If you suffer from yeast infection then you must have experienced the confusion stemmed from conflicting advice and from information overload. Honest information about vaginal yeast infection or any other type of candida infection is harder to come by than ever before, and nearly everyone has been misled at one time or another. I know I have. I wasted literally thousands of dollars on candida treatment programs that didn’t “work out” and anti-yeast infection products that didn’t do anything.

Furthermore, to successfully navigate through today’s jungle of misleading, dishonest and conflicting information, you're going to have to become a very shrewd and discriminating consumer.

There are in fact, alternative, cheap, safe, natural and holistic health practices and methods necessary to permanently eliminate the symptoms of this disease and cure the root internal cause of yeast infection regardless of its type, location, or level of severity.

To effectively overcome candida infection, you need to be aware of the real cause of yeast infection and be able to identify its symptoms. You need to know how to self-test and diagnose your candida condition, learn about the dietary principals needed to maintain a candida free environment and about the complimentary treatments that will help you battle against the negative effects and complications of your yeast infection.

By educating yourself about the steps you need to take in order to deal with your candida infection condition and help your body heal itself and control the fungal overgrowth from the inside out you can and will eliminate the pain, annoyance, humiliation and frustration associated with this condition and feel more in control. Additionally, as a side benefits you’ll feel more energized, healthier and vibrant. You will enjoy improved digestion, enhanced vision, and healthier hair, skin and nails.

Knowledge is power. Embrace it. Share it and apply it and you will be yeast infection free.

This article is based on the book, "Yeast Infection No More" by Linda Allen. Linda is an author, researcher, nutritionist and health consultant who dedicated her life to creating the ultimate holistic yeast infection solution guaranteed to permanently cure the root of candida and dramatically improve the overall quality of your life, naturally, without the use prescription medication and without any side effects. Learn more by visiting her website: www.yeastnomore.com







Monday, July 5, 2010

Does Relationship Conflict Affect Men More - Relationship Psychology

In trying to overcome conflicts in a relationship, psychology may help us understand why men and women react differently. If you are dating or in a marriage, there are going to be arguments from time to time. Situations can deteriorate more if each partner's ways of dealing with conflicts cause them to make things worse. Married couples turn to marriage counselors and those who aren't married seek out relationship advice. Most counseling will help the partners discover somethings things you can do that may help each understand how the other party thinks.

A study funded by the National Institute of Mental Health showed that most couples between the ages of 18 and 21,who had been together for only a couple of avoided intimacy and being dependent on their other half. They also showed levels of anxiety concerning being rejected or abandoned. Those studied all exhibited different degrees of the anxiety over being abandoned. Of course those who were more secure in themselves had lower levels of anxiety, while some others, depending on how they dealt with anxiety and thoughts about abandonment, reacted differently as well.

What was interesting in the study was how different the results were in both men and women. These study subjects showed that in terms of their physiological reaction to relationship conflict, the reaction in men was more easily noticeable. Most of the reaction was increased anxiety for the majority of men while in woman only those who are the more "avoidant" types showed any real changes.

Women are more likely to want to guide a conversation in trying to resolve conflict in a relationship. Psychology shows them to be, in this situation, the ones actively working to get the situation resolved. While they were showing increased levels of cortisol before and during the confrontation, the levels dropped significantly. They showed that getting the conflict over quickly was more physiologically satisfying.

Men, however, showed to be more passive in conflict resolution. While there was evidence that they, too, wanted the conflict to be resolved they weren't anxious to confront the conflict head on. Those men who had female partners who were more secure showed lower levels of anxiety. Women showed no change in their levels of anxiety whether their male counterpart was secure or not.

When you seek out relationship advice, whether from a family therapist or psychologist, they will to try to help you understand the different ways men and women react to a relationship conflict. The above research on studying the effects of relationship conflict in men and women will help you know why they react the way they do in a relationship. Psychology and physiological research will help you deal with conflict better.

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Thursday, July 1, 2010

Dealing With Break Up Causing Break Up Pain

Dealing with break up pain, any way that you look at it, is not going to be an easy or enjoyable task.Many of people incorrectly believe that they will be able to manage their heartbreak, only to find out that carrying a torch for someone after a love affair is a lot like grieving, at least if you look at the relationship as having passed on. When it comes to dealing with a broken intimate relationship, it is important that you look past the pain and find a way to survive even when things seem impossible for the time being.

Relationship breakup puts a lot of people through fear and misery. Some of the people going through these feelings have no one in the world to turn to, and this is why people suffer so hard from heartbreak in the first place.

Dealing with break up pain all by yourself can seem impossible at first, but consider how many people deal with love and loss in their lives and survive to talk about it. You too will be able to get over what feels like a crippling break up, but only if you are willing to deal with heartbreak pain the right way, and the healthy way for that matter.

So why is the pain from a lost love break up so difficult?

Because when dealing with a break up, it will seem as if you are the only one who has suffered the kind of pain you’re going through. It is important that you continue to try to heal rather than allowing yourself to give up on the situation.

Dwelling on the painful split from your lover will not help you, so instead you should work on getting better and moving on.Doing so will allow you to stop dealing with break up pain and start dealing with moving on and finding someone new, perhaps even someone that has a better dynamic with you.

* Spend time with your friends and let them help you get your mind off your heartbreak.

* Don't dwell on the bad feelings, but focus on the good parts of your life in order to promote healing.

Your friends will probably realize that you're going through something serious, and they will more than likely dedicate themselves to trying to help you through it. If this is the case, don't blow them off, because going out and spending time with your friends and the people that you care about will be extremely helpful when it comes to dealing with break up pain.

Everyone goes through a period where they are dealing with break up pain, because everyone goes through a breakup. Rather than allow yourself to suffer while dealing with breaking up pain, what you should do is enjoy yourself and work on healing rather than allowing yourself to become stressed out, overwhelmed or depressed by your heartbreak.

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Sunday, June 20, 2010

Driver Education for Teens in St. Louis by: Lynn Fugaro

It sometimes seems like young people believe they are invincible. According to one statistic, only 56 percent of teens in Missouri wear a seatbelt, as opposed to more than 70 percent of drivers overall. However, the issue may not be misguided believe of invincibility as much as a lack of driver education for teens.

Graduated Drivers License

The graduated drivers license program, or GDL, in effect in Missouri offers teens provisional licenses which allow them to drive under restricted circumstances. This allows teens to gain experience driving with a licensed driver until they are allowed to drive on their own. But as much as 50% of teenagers fail the learner’s permit exam the first time they take it.

Although the learner’s permit exam is rigorous, education is all that is required to pass it. If your teen has already failed the learner’s permit exam, he or she may suffer damage to self-esteem and lose confidence in his or her ability to drive. A driver education course can not only help your teen regain confidence, but know what to do in dangerous situations, before they encounter them.

Knowing Who to Trust

Many teens lack common sense when driving not because of a lack of intelligence, but because what we call “common sense” is actually learned responses to certain situations. For example, while you may understand that it is dangerous to pull over in certain circumstances, your teen may not know that he or she has the option of driving to a safe place before pulling over.

A good driver education course should teach your teen:

• How to respond to law enforcement officials

• How to care for a car

• Missouri traffic law and how to follow it

• Highway safety

• How to respond to dangerous situations

• What do to after a car accident

Professional Driver Education

You may believe that you can offer your teen sufficient driver education to prepare him or her for any situation, but professional driver education offers a number of benefits:

• Insurance credit

• Standardized curriculum

• Extensive knowledge

• Interactive learning with the instructor or other teens

• Confidence

Many high schools offer driver education for their students, or recommend a driver education course to their students at a discounted rate. You can contact your student’s high school to learn if they have a preferred driver education course and how to enroll your teen.

To learn more about the benefits of driver education for teens, please visit the website of The Bradley Law Firm, serving driving teens and their parents in the St. Louis, Jefferson City, and Kansas City areas of Missouri.

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Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Real Life Guidance to Understanding Your Teen

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Description: This report gives you an inside glance out how easy and helpful understanding your teen can be. With this report you will learn how to reach deep into your own resources to be able to not only understand but help your teen through these turbulent years.

Review: I remember being a teenager. I thought I had the world by the toe and could do just about anything I wanted too. I also thought I was the only one who knew anything and that no matter what they said my parents didn’t have a clue about me or my life. You know what after raising 3 of my own I have to come to find out that some of those types of thoughts are probably true.

You can’t raise a teenager in this day and age the way our parents could raised us. It’s just not possible with all the things that teenagers have to face these days. If the truth be known when it comes to things like the computer, jobs, school, friends and even sex they probably know more than we could imagine and much more than we knew as at their age.

There is help to get you through all this and be on an even playing ground with your children. This report is just that help. It is a straight forward report that will help you to understand many of the things your teenager is dealing with. It doesn’t give you hidden agendas or try to make you think its all fun and roses. That’s what is best about this report. It is true and honest information that works.

Understanding Your Teen goes into things like why your teenager has mood swings. Not only does explain why, it even gives you tips on how to deal with and work through them. It helps you to understand that communication is number one have to with your teenager but it helps to finds ways to keep that communication open and honest.

If you are looking for some help in understanding your teenager please pick up your copy. It can give you insight into and about your teenager along with resources that every parent needs to make it through this lovely but many times difficult stage of parenthood.

It will also give you a sense of well being and confidence in knowing that there are other people in this world going through the same things and that help can begin as soon as right now. Raising a teenager is not an easy job for parents or their teen, but having some honest, straightforward guidance can be the difference between raising your teen or your teen raising you.

Monday, June 7, 2010

How to Recognize Your Teens Problems - By Mitestarossa, eHow Member

Instructions


Step 1

QUIET - Recognize unusually quiet behavior in your teen? If your teen is quiet and it lasts for hours or days or weeks, there could be a problem. I teen that keeps quiet may be trying to keep something from you that is painful to them. The problem may be minor such as a broken heart or it could be serious such as abuse. Spend time with your teen to see if you can extract information without making them feel uncomfortable. Sometimes it is easier for a teen to talk to a grandmother, grandfather, uncle or aunt.

Step 2

GRADES DROP - Recognize a drop in your teens grades? School work does become progressively more difficult over time, so a slight drop in grades as children get older can be normal. However, if your teen has a drop in grades and seems to be disinterested in their school work, there could be another problem. You need to know everything that is going on in your teens life so that you can help them with the issues that they are going through. Never leave your teen alone with another teen of the opposite sex. Not even for a short amount of time. It puts both teens in a compromising position.

Step 3

TROUBLESOME BEHAVIOR - Recognize troublesome behavior in your teen? Teens sometimes cause trouble because of the pain that they are in. They are essentially asking for help. If your child is causing trouble at school or within the family, you may have a problem on your hands. You will not be able to help until you find out what the problem is. Help your child get through difficult times by spying on them to find out what problems they are having. It is completely acceptable for you to search through their rooms when they are not home, monitor their phones calls, chats and emails and eavesdrop when they are with their friends. It is your responsibility to help them become the best adult that they can be, so do your part and help them through the tough times.


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Friday, May 21, 2010

"What Does Love Mean?" See How 4-8 Year-Old Kids Describe Love

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds: "What does love mean?"

The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think...

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"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."

Rebecca - age 8

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"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."

Billy - age 4

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"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."

Terri - age 4

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"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."

Danny - age 7

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"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss."

Emily - age 8

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"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."

Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)

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"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate."

Nikka - age 6
(we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

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"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."

Noelle - age 7

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"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well."

Tommy - age 6

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"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.

He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."

Cindy - age 8

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"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken."

Elaine - age 5

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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford."

Chris - age 7

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"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."

Mary Ann - age 4

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"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." (Now THIS is love!)

Lauren - age 4

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"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." (what an image!)

Karen - age 7

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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross."

Mark - age 6

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"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."

Jessica - age 8

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And the final one...

Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.

Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,

"Nothing, I just helped him cry."

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Causes Of Shyness

At one time or another in our lives, we have had experienced shyness. As children, it is a normal temporary behavior, considered part of normal development.

It comes in roughly two waves: first, at around the ages of 5 to 6 months and again at about age 2. Shyness becomes evident at about age 3. Problems arise when shyness hampers with the child's relationships with the others, in social situations, school, etc.

Defined as a fear of, or withdrawal from other people or social situations, shyness may have several causes depending on the particular child and the specific circumstances.

Shyness is a behavior parents should not ignore on their child. On the part of the child, it can be a very painful emotion to live with, and it will definitely affect the other aspects of his life all the way to his adulthood.

For starters, shy children develop low self-esteem and its attendant lack of self-confidence. This results into a real difficulty for the shy child to make friends. Moreover, they do not usually receive the needed help from their teachers.

Some reasons for shyness

As had been cited before, shyness can have several causes. Each case, however, is unique for each child. Some may have one specific cause, while others may have a combination of causes that feed on each other.

*Heredity Some research showed that shyness runs in the family. However, science could not yet pinpoint if there is a specific gene for it. It could be that children learn the shyness behavior from their parents through example.

*Modeling or learned behavior. As is noted from the above observations, children may have acquired their shyness habit from watching how their parents interact with other people. As statistics show, shy parents usually have shy children.

*Difficulty with frequent exposure to new situations. Children are repeatedly exposed to new situations. Unfortunately, not all children can cope with these, and those that cannot tend to withdraw.

*Overprotective parents. Children who are overprotected lack the opportunities to be socially independent. Growing up, they lack the confidence needed to make their own decisions. Their later insecurities will trigger shyness.

*Inconsistent parenting. Parenting practices that are not consistent cause confusion and insecurity in children. This behavior can lead to shyness. Examples would be punishing the child for a breach of rules at one time and yet letting it pass on the next incidence.

*Lack of parental involvement. Some parents believe that letting children on their own promotes a child's independent attitude. This is a mistake because children with no experience need constant guidance from parents. Other parents don't have the time nor the inclination to involve themselves. This is another tragic mistake. Decreased parental involvement makes the child believe his unworthy status and will feel uncomfortable in social situations.

Teasing, threats, criticisms. When children are frequently teased, threatened or criticized either by their family or by other people, they will eventually develop the expectation of only negative feedback from others. This will lead to their evading actions in social situations and contact with other people.

These are just some of the more visible causes of shyness in children. Fortunately, shyness is not a difficult problem to correct. However, the correction process needs the full cooperation and total commitment from the parents themselves.


Rosemary
SocialShyness.net

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Men Want More Than A Pretty Face

What men want more than a pretty face or
teeny waist is to be ADMIRED by their partner.

What it means: Many women believe men have an affair
with the 'secretary' because she's hot, young or has some
'physical' attribute she lacks.

The truth is most men that have affairs are CRAVING
admiration.

At home, many men feel nagged.

At the office, they are the 'hero'.

If a man doesn't feel admired at home, he becomes
easier prey for any woman that makes him feel respected
and admired.

When a woman makes her man feel admired she
cloaks him in 'anti-slut' armor because most men
would do just about anything to NOT to lose her
admiration.

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Tuesday, May 11, 2010

How can You Tell If You Are In A Toxic Relationship

How can you tell if you are in a toxic relationship?

Here are some clues:

· Your partner puts you down (verbally) in front of others
· While your partner says he/she loves you, his/her actions
don't back it up
· Your partner is taking controlling - reading your mail or
"showing up" at places where you are just to "check up" on
you.
· Your partner tries to make you dependent on him/her
· You are force to change yourself c to please your partner

In reality you feel sick to be around toxic people. So, why would anyone end up in a toxic relationship?
Why would anyone want to be with someone who makes them feel emotionally or physically hurt?

A toxic relationship goes round in predictable a cycle. There's a honeymoon period, followed by a blow up, then by a reconciliation - at which point the cycle begins again. You want to get out but feel helpless and trapped by your own nagging feelings of uncertainty about the relationship.

How do people become toxic personalities?

One reason is they grow up in toxic homes. As a result, they replicate the patterns of their childhood. And, they may not know better about hey kind of relationship they have created. The bully in a toxic relationship holds the selfish belief that his/her behavior is for the good of the relationship. He?she couldn't care less about the other party's feelings or suffering.

But the first step in getting out and staying out of toxic relationships is to realize that you do have choices. Often people who stay in these couples have low self esteem or suffer from insecurity complex.

Start believing that you have choices. Once you realize that you have choices you'll find it easier to stand up for yourself. In most toxic relationships, the toxic partner has conditioned your mind that it is all your fault. Once you buy into this, it can be very difficult to either walk away from the relationship or set new limits to heal the relationship.

For some people, working in therapy groups can help them either get out of or redefine these horrible relationships.

The good news is that some people are able to break the cycles of toxic relationships. Some of them leave the relationship and form new, healthier bonds with others.

But there are also others who are actually able to repair their relationship and stay in it.

The truth is that most relationships can be salvaged. Sometimes it takes a little space. At other times counseling helps. But what ever steps are taken to successfully rebuild the relationship it requires the agreement and compromise of both partners.

The first thing you need to decide is that the relationship must improve or you're walk away. If you aren't willing to walk away, you'll never be able to heal that which divides you.

Once you have liberated yourself from the dependency that is binding you to the toxic relationship, you can begin to assert what you need from the connection. Don't nag the other person. Simply say "I need your support," "I need your love," or "I need your truthful opinion."

If you don't get what you need, the other person should know that you're prepared to walk.

A healthy relationship is a two way street. In a toxic relationship, the street is only going one way. You have the power to change that, but you must be willing to take the power into your own hands and begin the repairing process.

Anytime you are trapped in a toxic relationship remember, you have choices. I you need more information and ideas to solve relationship problems Click Here!

Monday, May 10, 2010

How To Effectively Reduce Belly Fat

Jelly Belly. Love Handles. Dunlap Disease. Whatever you want to call it, the excess fat around your midsection that wiggles and jiggles in all the wrong places just

isn't pretty. Not only is belly fat unattractive, it can be downright dangerous to your health. Extra fat carried around your abdomen can increase your risk of heart

disease. With so many pills, potions and programs flooding the weight loss
industry today, many people are left feeling just plain confused about how to effectively reduce belly fat
.

The first thing you must know about how to effectively reduce belly fat is that there is no magic bullet when it comes to weight loss. Reducing body fat levels

requires a three pronged approach that doesn't come from popping diet pills or gulping down foul tasting drinks. Belly fat also won't come off by trying to spot

reduce only doing sit-ups or crunches. It's just not possible to spot reduce, so don't waste your time.

So, the question remains, how do you effectively reduce belly fat? Here is a safe, practical three pronged approach to get rid of belly fat.

1. Healthy Meals. Notice the word diet isn't part of the equation. That's because the word diet conjures up visions of carrots and celery and not much else. The

word diet gives us nightmares of deprivation and hunger, and that's not the image we're looking for with permanent weight loss. Just because the word diet isn't

used does not mean you're free to gorge on junk food at will. Healthy meals consist of lean protein, lots of vegetables, whole grains and some fruit. Your should

consistantly choose foods that are as close as possible to their natural state.

2. Cardiovascular Exercise. Regular cardiovascular exercise will reduce body fat levels. Where should you start? Wallking is great cardio! Put your shoes on and

get moving for at least 30 minutes per day. It doesn't matter how fast or how far you walk in the beginning, the most important point is that you're moving your

body aerobically on a regular basis. If you don't enjoy walking then ride a bike, rollerskate, jog, run. Participate in whatever aerobic activity you enjoy.

3. Lift Weights. Yes, you did read that correctly! If you're wondering what lifting weights has to do with effectively reducing belly fat, then read on. Regular

weight lifting has several beneficial effects for those folks trying to reduce their body fat levels. Muscles burn extra calories. The more muscle you carry on your

frame, the more calories you burn in a 24 hour period which translates into extra fat burning
power. Muscles take up about one third less space than fat. Muscles give you the power to carry on your daily activities more effectively and with energy to

spare.

Learning how to effectively reduce belly fat isn't a difficult task. The three principle keys to getting rid of your gut rely on diet, cardiovascular exercise and weight

lifting on a regular basis. Remember, you didn't sprout belly fat overnight and you can't get rid of belly fat in a day, but you can reduce belly fat if you're willing to

put forth a bit of
effort.
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Sunday, May 9, 2010

Body Image Quiz For Plus Size Woman

Body Image Quiz for Plus-Size Women

Author: Sally Smith

Every woman, regardless of her size, has body image issues. But this is especially true for plus-size women. Because women's bodies are constantly scrutinized and commented upon, and Madison Avenue and the media promote unrealistic ideals, how could it be otherwise?

In reality, our bodies - no matter what their shape or size - are wondrous things. They keep us moving through our world, they have an amazing capacity to heal themselves and they are intriguing in their diversity of beauty.

Take this quiz to discover what your body image says about you:

1. Think of three things you love about your body. Okay, how long did
it take you to come up with your list?


A. Less than 15 seconds
B. Under a minute
C. About five minutes
D. I'm still thinking

2. How often do you weigh yourself?

A. Never
B. Once a month
C. Once a week
D. Almost every day

3. What best describes your thoughts when you stand without clothes in front of a mirror?

A. "Boy, am I hot, or what?"
B. "Hmmm... My (body part) is kind of nice."
C. "I've got to do something about my (body part)."
D. I would never stand without clothes in front of a mirror

4. What are you most likely to wear to a rollicking party?

A. Something slinky that shows off my curves
B. An outfit with a fitted silhouette
C. Something loose and comfortable
D. An outfit that hides my (body part)

5. How often do you choose not to participate in an activity (go to a party or swim, for example) because of your body shape or size?

A. Never
B. Rarely
C. Sometimes
D. Frequently

6. When you make love, do you:

A. Delight in your partner's enjoyment of your body?
B. Have fleeting doubts about your attractiveness to your partner?
C. Cringe when your partner touches your (body part)?
D. Insist upon turning off the lights first?

7. When you receive a compliment about your appearance, do you feel:

A. Deserving
B. Flattered
C. Suspicious
D. Incredulous

8. What is your response when a friend or co-worker complains about how fat she is?

A. "Get over it!"
B. "You look terrific to me."
C. "I know exactly what you mean."
D. "Let's join that new diet center tomorrow."



Scoring:

Add up your total number of points, according to the following scale:
A = 6 points, B = 4 points, C = 2 points and D = 0 points.

40+ points:
Body Politic: You go, girl! You've overcome the negativity in the world around you and are proud of your curves. Your confidence and your determination to live your life fully are admirable. Maybe you should consider writing a book, giving a workshop or finding other ways to share your success with those who struggle with body image issues.

25 - 39 points:

Body Beautiful: Virtually everyone has days when they feel less than attractive, but you're well on your way to loving every inch of your beautiful body. Remember to give yourself a break and take a look at the marvelous variety of body types around you. Think about the aspects of your body you with which you are less than pleased, and come up with affirmations to counteract the negative thoughts you might have. Stand in front of a mirror twice a day and repeat the affirmations - you'll eventually believe them!

10 - 24 points:

Body Shop: You need to do some repairs to your body image. Start focusing on the positive instead of the negative, and remember that your self-esteem is linked to the way you perceive your body. Don't let the way you feel about your body prevent you from getting all you want out of life. Take the time to look your very best and drink in the compliments of those around you. Remind yourself that you deserve the accolades, and replay them in your mind when you're feeling negative. Eventually, you'll begin to believe your own press!

9 points or less:

Body Blow: Life is too short to feel so badly about your body. You need to understand that your body, with all its seeming "imperfections" is a miracle. Try and open yourself to the possibility that you are fine just the way you are. Read related books, see a therapist that specializes in body image issues and seek support from friends in your journey. It takes work to get to a place of self-acceptance, but the rewards are immeasurable.



Sally E. Smith is the editor-in-chief of BBW Magazine and BBW Magazine Online (http://www.bbwmagazine.com). BBW Magazine Online provides plus-size women with information and resources on fashion, plus-size modeling, health, beauty, career, finance, and - most of all - fun!



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Thursday, May 6, 2010

Bedtime and Kids: Is The Best Discipline Spanking?

Bedtime and Kids: Is The Best Discipline Spanking?
By Kelly Nault

Parenting Question:

"Kelly, I’ve got five words for you: bedtime, kids, discipline, spanking and HELP! Our two sons are next to impossible to get to bed at night, and in the last while we’ve started spanking them. We’ve always threatened to, but really didn’t have to follow through. But when it started taking over 90 minutes to get them to bed, enough was enough! Now they are trying to hit us back, run around and it’s exhausting. I don’t know if you can help, but I would like to know what you might suggest."

—Frazzled Bedtime Mom (and Dad!)

Positive Parenting Tip From Kelly Nault:

Dear Frustrated Mom:

Sounds like your family is burning the midnight oil and the fuel that is firing up this conflict is your sons’ goal of power. The only question is, who will win?

My goal is to have you all win.

Resolving bedtime struggles is a common question and is an epidemic problem that plagues most households. If it’s not one more story, it’s “ten more minutes” of their favorite TV show or dawdling in the bathroom. Children will also manage to get their babysitters to let them stay up long past their bedtime. To avoid being conned or manipulated try my approach:

1. Tell Them What You Are Going To Do.
Say something like, “Part of what I love to do with you is read stories at bedtime, but sometimes I feel frustrated when bedtime takes a lot longer than it needs to be. So from now on I will be at your bedside promptly at ____p.m. to tuck you in. If you are not there at that time all ready to be tucked in, I will start getting ready for bed myself. If you would like a hug, you can come and find me for a quick one, but I will not return to your room.”

2. Follow Through.
As you stated, be in their room on time. If you feel it's necessary, give them one five-minute warning. If they aren't ready at the specified time, leave—and be prepared to keep your mouth shut at all costs (regardless of tears, angry words, or pleads to be tucked in). Go into the bathroom, lock the door and get ready yourself. Give them one hug if they ask, then continue with your tasks. If they try to get you involved, simply say, “I’ll be happy to speak with you in the morning. Sweet dreams.” And that is all.

Lastly, know that your children will test you. Chances are your two boys will test you hard! Fortunately, this gives you the opportunity to be consistent in your new approach to discipline, kids, spanking and bedtime. As soon as your children realize that you are consistent in your new way to put them to bed, they will have no choice but to change their own.


Kelly Nault, MA author of When You’re About To Go Off The Deep End, Don’t Take Your Kids With You inspires moms to put themselves first—for the sake of their children. She shares time-tested tools that motivate children to want to be well behaved, responsible and happy! Sign up for her free online parenting course here.

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