A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds: "What does love mean?"
The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think...
_____
"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."
Rebecca - age 8
_____
"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."
Billy - age 4
_____
"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."
Terri - age 4
_____
"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."
Danny - age 7
_____
"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss."
Emily - age 8
_____
"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."
Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)
_____
"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate."
Nikka - age 6
(we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)
_____
"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."
Noelle - age 7
_____
"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well."
Tommy - age 6
_____
"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.
He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."
Cindy - age 8
_____
"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken."
Elaine - age 5
_____
"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford."
Chris - age 7
_____
"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."
Mary Ann - age 4
_____
"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." (Now THIS is love!)
Lauren - age 4
_____
"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." (what an image!)
Karen - age 7
_____
"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross."
Mark - age 6
_____
"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."
Jessica - age 8
_____
And the final one...
Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.
The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.
Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.
When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,
"Nothing, I just helped him cry."
Friday, May 21, 2010
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Causes Of Shyness
At one time or another in our lives, we have had experienced shyness. As children, it is a normal temporary behavior, considered part of normal development.
It comes in roughly two waves: first, at around the ages of 5 to 6 months and again at about age 2. Shyness becomes evident at about age 3. Problems arise when shyness hampers with the child's relationships with the others, in social situations, school, etc.
Defined as a fear of, or withdrawal from other people or social situations, shyness may have several causes depending on the particular child and the specific circumstances.
Shyness is a behavior parents should not ignore on their child. On the part of the child, it can be a very painful emotion to live with, and it will definitely affect the other aspects of his life all the way to his adulthood.
For starters, shy children develop low self-esteem and its attendant lack of self-confidence. This results into a real difficulty for the shy child to make friends. Moreover, they do not usually receive the needed help from their teachers.
Some reasons for shyness
As had been cited before, shyness can have several causes. Each case, however, is unique for each child. Some may have one specific cause, while others may have a combination of causes that feed on each other.
*Heredity Some research showed that shyness runs in the family. However, science could not yet pinpoint if there is a specific gene for it. It could be that children learn the shyness behavior from their parents through example.
*Modeling or learned behavior. As is noted from the above observations, children may have acquired their shyness habit from watching how their parents interact with other people. As statistics show, shy parents usually have shy children.
*Difficulty with frequent exposure to new situations. Children are repeatedly exposed to new situations. Unfortunately, not all children can cope with these, and those that cannot tend to withdraw.
*Overprotective parents. Children who are overprotected lack the opportunities to be socially independent. Growing up, they lack the confidence needed to make their own decisions. Their later insecurities will trigger shyness.
*Inconsistent parenting. Parenting practices that are not consistent cause confusion and insecurity in children. This behavior can lead to shyness. Examples would be punishing the child for a breach of rules at one time and yet letting it pass on the next incidence.
*Lack of parental involvement. Some parents believe that letting children on their own promotes a child's independent attitude. This is a mistake because children with no experience need constant guidance from parents. Other parents don't have the time nor the inclination to involve themselves. This is another tragic mistake. Decreased parental involvement makes the child believe his unworthy status and will feel uncomfortable in social situations.
Teasing, threats, criticisms. When children are frequently teased, threatened or criticized either by their family or by other people, they will eventually develop the expectation of only negative feedback from others. This will lead to their evading actions in social situations and contact with other people.
These are just some of the more visible causes of shyness in children. Fortunately, shyness is not a difficult problem to correct. However, the correction process needs the full cooperation and total commitment from the parents themselves.
Rosemary
SocialShyness.net
It comes in roughly two waves: first, at around the ages of 5 to 6 months and again at about age 2. Shyness becomes evident at about age 3. Problems arise when shyness hampers with the child's relationships with the others, in social situations, school, etc.
Defined as a fear of, or withdrawal from other people or social situations, shyness may have several causes depending on the particular child and the specific circumstances.
Shyness is a behavior parents should not ignore on their child. On the part of the child, it can be a very painful emotion to live with, and it will definitely affect the other aspects of his life all the way to his adulthood.
For starters, shy children develop low self-esteem and its attendant lack of self-confidence. This results into a real difficulty for the shy child to make friends. Moreover, they do not usually receive the needed help from their teachers.
Some reasons for shyness
As had been cited before, shyness can have several causes. Each case, however, is unique for each child. Some may have one specific cause, while others may have a combination of causes that feed on each other.
*Heredity Some research showed that shyness runs in the family. However, science could not yet pinpoint if there is a specific gene for it. It could be that children learn the shyness behavior from their parents through example.
*Modeling or learned behavior. As is noted from the above observations, children may have acquired their shyness habit from watching how their parents interact with other people. As statistics show, shy parents usually have shy children.
*Difficulty with frequent exposure to new situations. Children are repeatedly exposed to new situations. Unfortunately, not all children can cope with these, and those that cannot tend to withdraw.
*Overprotective parents. Children who are overprotected lack the opportunities to be socially independent. Growing up, they lack the confidence needed to make their own decisions. Their later insecurities will trigger shyness.
*Inconsistent parenting. Parenting practices that are not consistent cause confusion and insecurity in children. This behavior can lead to shyness. Examples would be punishing the child for a breach of rules at one time and yet letting it pass on the next incidence.
*Lack of parental involvement. Some parents believe that letting children on their own promotes a child's independent attitude. This is a mistake because children with no experience need constant guidance from parents. Other parents don't have the time nor the inclination to involve themselves. This is another tragic mistake. Decreased parental involvement makes the child believe his unworthy status and will feel uncomfortable in social situations.
Teasing, threats, criticisms. When children are frequently teased, threatened or criticized either by their family or by other people, they will eventually develop the expectation of only negative feedback from others. This will lead to their evading actions in social situations and contact with other people.
These are just some of the more visible causes of shyness in children. Fortunately, shyness is not a difficult problem to correct. However, the correction process needs the full cooperation and total commitment from the parents themselves.
Rosemary
SocialShyness.net
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Men Want More Than A Pretty Face
What men want more than a pretty face or
teeny waist is to be ADMIRED by their partner.
What it means: Many women believe men have an affair
with the 'secretary' because she's hot, young or has some
'physical' attribute she lacks.
The truth is most men that have affairs are CRAVING
admiration.
At home, many men feel nagged.
At the office, they are the 'hero'.
If a man doesn't feel admired at home, he becomes
easier prey for any woman that makes him feel respected
and admired.
When a woman makes her man feel admired she
cloaks him in 'anti-slut' armor because most men
would do just about anything to NOT to lose her
admiration.
Watch the video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zKSJdFtFLcA
For more info
http://onlineearningplan.info/makeup
teeny waist is to be ADMIRED by their partner.
What it means: Many women believe men have an affair
with the 'secretary' because she's hot, young or has some
'physical' attribute she lacks.
The truth is most men that have affairs are CRAVING
admiration.
At home, many men feel nagged.
At the office, they are the 'hero'.
If a man doesn't feel admired at home, he becomes
easier prey for any woman that makes him feel respected
and admired.
When a woman makes her man feel admired she
cloaks him in 'anti-slut' armor because most men
would do just about anything to NOT to lose her
admiration.
Watch the video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zKSJdFtFLcA
For more info
http://onlineearningplan.info/makeup
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
How can You Tell If You Are In A Toxic Relationship
How can you tell if you are in a toxic relationship?
Here are some clues:
· Your partner puts you down (verbally) in front of others
· While your partner says he/she loves you, his/her actions
don't back it up
· Your partner is taking controlling - reading your mail or
"showing up" at places where you are just to "check up" on
you.
· Your partner tries to make you dependent on him/her
· You are force to change yourself c to please your partner
In reality you feel sick to be around toxic people. So, why would anyone end up in a toxic relationship?
Why would anyone want to be with someone who makes them feel emotionally or physically hurt?
A toxic relationship goes round in predictable a cycle. There's a honeymoon period, followed by a blow up, then by a reconciliation - at which point the cycle begins again. You want to get out but feel helpless and trapped by your own nagging feelings of uncertainty about the relationship.
How do people become toxic personalities?
One reason is they grow up in toxic homes. As a result, they replicate the patterns of their childhood. And, they may not know better about hey kind of relationship they have created. The bully in a toxic relationship holds the selfish belief that his/her behavior is for the good of the relationship. He?she couldn't care less about the other party's feelings or suffering.
But the first step in getting out and staying out of toxic relationships is to realize that you do have choices. Often people who stay in these couples have low self esteem or suffer from insecurity complex.
Start believing that you have choices. Once you realize that you have choices you'll find it easier to stand up for yourself. In most toxic relationships, the toxic partner has conditioned your mind that it is all your fault. Once you buy into this, it can be very difficult to either walk away from the relationship or set new limits to heal the relationship.
For some people, working in therapy groups can help them either get out of or redefine these horrible relationships.
The good news is that some people are able to break the cycles of toxic relationships. Some of them leave the relationship and form new, healthier bonds with others.
But there are also others who are actually able to repair their relationship and stay in it.
The truth is that most relationships can be salvaged. Sometimes it takes a little space. At other times counseling helps. But what ever steps are taken to successfully rebuild the relationship it requires the agreement and compromise of both partners.
The first thing you need to decide is that the relationship must improve or you're walk away. If you aren't willing to walk away, you'll never be able to heal that which divides you.
Once you have liberated yourself from the dependency that is binding you to the toxic relationship, you can begin to assert what you need from the connection. Don't nag the other person. Simply say "I need your support," "I need your love," or "I need your truthful opinion."
If you don't get what you need, the other person should know that you're prepared to walk.
A healthy relationship is a two way street. In a toxic relationship, the street is only going one way. You have the power to change that, but you must be willing to take the power into your own hands and begin the repairing process.
Anytime you are trapped in a toxic relationship remember, you have choices. I you need more information and ideas to solve relationship problems Click Here!
Here are some clues:
· Your partner puts you down (verbally) in front of others
· While your partner says he/she loves you, his/her actions
don't back it up
· Your partner is taking controlling - reading your mail or
"showing up" at places where you are just to "check up" on
you.
· Your partner tries to make you dependent on him/her
· You are force to change yourself c to please your partner
In reality you feel sick to be around toxic people. So, why would anyone end up in a toxic relationship?
Why would anyone want to be with someone who makes them feel emotionally or physically hurt?
A toxic relationship goes round in predictable a cycle. There's a honeymoon period, followed by a blow up, then by a reconciliation - at which point the cycle begins again. You want to get out but feel helpless and trapped by your own nagging feelings of uncertainty about the relationship.
How do people become toxic personalities?
One reason is they grow up in toxic homes. As a result, they replicate the patterns of their childhood. And, they may not know better about hey kind of relationship they have created. The bully in a toxic relationship holds the selfish belief that his/her behavior is for the good of the relationship. He?she couldn't care less about the other party's feelings or suffering.
But the first step in getting out and staying out of toxic relationships is to realize that you do have choices. Often people who stay in these couples have low self esteem or suffer from insecurity complex.
Start believing that you have choices. Once you realize that you have choices you'll find it easier to stand up for yourself. In most toxic relationships, the toxic partner has conditioned your mind that it is all your fault. Once you buy into this, it can be very difficult to either walk away from the relationship or set new limits to heal the relationship.
For some people, working in therapy groups can help them either get out of or redefine these horrible relationships.
The good news is that some people are able to break the cycles of toxic relationships. Some of them leave the relationship and form new, healthier bonds with others.
But there are also others who are actually able to repair their relationship and stay in it.
The truth is that most relationships can be salvaged. Sometimes it takes a little space. At other times counseling helps. But what ever steps are taken to successfully rebuild the relationship it requires the agreement and compromise of both partners.
The first thing you need to decide is that the relationship must improve or you're walk away. If you aren't willing to walk away, you'll never be able to heal that which divides you.
Once you have liberated yourself from the dependency that is binding you to the toxic relationship, you can begin to assert what you need from the connection. Don't nag the other person. Simply say "I need your support," "I need your love," or "I need your truthful opinion."
If you don't get what you need, the other person should know that you're prepared to walk.
A healthy relationship is a two way street. In a toxic relationship, the street is only going one way. You have the power to change that, but you must be willing to take the power into your own hands and begin the repairing process.
Anytime you are trapped in a toxic relationship remember, you have choices. I you need more information and ideas to solve relationship problems Click Here!
Monday, May 10, 2010
How To Effectively Reduce Belly Fat
Jelly Belly. Love Handles. Dunlap Disease. Whatever you want to call it, the excess fat around your midsection that wiggles and jiggles in all the wrong places just
isn't pretty. Not only is belly fat unattractive, it can be downright dangerous to your health. Extra fat carried around your abdomen can increase your risk of heart
disease. With so many pills, potions and programs flooding the weight loss
industry today, many people are left feeling just plain confused about how to effectively reduce belly fat
.
The first thing you must know about how to effectively reduce belly fat is that there is no magic bullet when it comes to weight loss. Reducing body fat levels
requires a three pronged approach that doesn't come from popping diet pills or gulping down foul tasting drinks. Belly fat also won't come off by trying to spot
reduce only doing sit-ups or crunches. It's just not possible to spot reduce, so don't waste your time.
So, the question remains, how do you effectively reduce belly fat? Here is a safe, practical three pronged approach to get rid of belly fat.
1. Healthy Meals. Notice the word diet isn't part of the equation. That's because the word diet conjures up visions of carrots and celery and not much else. The
word diet gives us nightmares of deprivation and hunger, and that's not the image we're looking for with permanent weight loss. Just because the word diet isn't
used does not mean you're free to gorge on junk food at will. Healthy meals consist of lean protein, lots of vegetables, whole grains and some fruit. Your should
consistantly choose foods that are as close as possible to their natural state.
2. Cardiovascular Exercise. Regular cardiovascular exercise will reduce body fat levels. Where should you start? Wallking is great cardio! Put your shoes on and
get moving for at least 30 minutes per day. It doesn't matter how fast or how far you walk in the beginning, the most important point is that you're moving your
body aerobically on a regular basis. If you don't enjoy walking then ride a bike, rollerskate, jog, run. Participate in whatever aerobic activity you enjoy.
3. Lift Weights. Yes, you did read that correctly! If you're wondering what lifting weights has to do with effectively reducing belly fat, then read on. Regular
weight lifting has several beneficial effects for those folks trying to reduce their body fat levels. Muscles burn extra calories. The more muscle you carry on your
frame, the more calories you burn in a 24 hour period which translates into extra fat burning
power. Muscles take up about one third less space than fat. Muscles give you the power to carry on your daily activities more effectively and with energy to
spare.
Learning how to effectively reduce belly fat isn't a difficult task. The three principle keys to getting rid of your gut rely on diet, cardiovascular exercise and weight
lifting on a regular basis. Remember, you didn't sprout belly fat overnight and you can't get rid of belly fat in a day, but you can reduce belly fat if you're willing to
put forth a bit of
effort.
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isn't pretty. Not only is belly fat unattractive, it can be downright dangerous to your health. Extra fat carried around your abdomen can increase your risk of heart
disease. With so many pills, potions and programs flooding the weight loss
industry today, many people are left feeling just plain confused about how to effectively reduce belly fat
.
The first thing you must know about how to effectively reduce belly fat is that there is no magic bullet when it comes to weight loss. Reducing body fat levels
requires a three pronged approach that doesn't come from popping diet pills or gulping down foul tasting drinks. Belly fat also won't come off by trying to spot
reduce only doing sit-ups or crunches. It's just not possible to spot reduce, so don't waste your time.
So, the question remains, how do you effectively reduce belly fat? Here is a safe, practical three pronged approach to get rid of belly fat.
1. Healthy Meals. Notice the word diet isn't part of the equation. That's because the word diet conjures up visions of carrots and celery and not much else. The
word diet gives us nightmares of deprivation and hunger, and that's not the image we're looking for with permanent weight loss. Just because the word diet isn't
used does not mean you're free to gorge on junk food at will. Healthy meals consist of lean protein, lots of vegetables, whole grains and some fruit. Your should
consistantly choose foods that are as close as possible to their natural state.
2. Cardiovascular Exercise. Regular cardiovascular exercise will reduce body fat levels. Where should you start? Wallking is great cardio! Put your shoes on and
get moving for at least 30 minutes per day. It doesn't matter how fast or how far you walk in the beginning, the most important point is that you're moving your
body aerobically on a regular basis. If you don't enjoy walking then ride a bike, rollerskate, jog, run. Participate in whatever aerobic activity you enjoy.
3. Lift Weights. Yes, you did read that correctly! If you're wondering what lifting weights has to do with effectively reducing belly fat, then read on. Regular
weight lifting has several beneficial effects for those folks trying to reduce their body fat levels. Muscles burn extra calories. The more muscle you carry on your
frame, the more calories you burn in a 24 hour period which translates into extra fat burning
power. Muscles take up about one third less space than fat. Muscles give you the power to carry on your daily activities more effectively and with energy to
spare.
Learning how to effectively reduce belly fat isn't a difficult task. The three principle keys to getting rid of your gut rely on diet, cardiovascular exercise and weight
lifting on a regular basis. Remember, you didn't sprout belly fat overnight and you can't get rid of belly fat in a day, but you can reduce belly fat if you're willing to
put forth a bit of
effort.
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Sunday, May 9, 2010
Body Image Quiz For Plus Size Woman
Body Image Quiz for Plus-Size Women
Author: Sally Smith
Every woman, regardless of her size, has body image issues. But this is especially true for plus-size women. Because women's bodies are constantly scrutinized and commented upon, and Madison Avenue and the media promote unrealistic ideals, how could it be otherwise?
In reality, our bodies - no matter what their shape or size - are wondrous things. They keep us moving through our world, they have an amazing capacity to heal themselves and they are intriguing in their diversity of beauty.
Take this quiz to discover what your body image says about you:
1. Think of three things you love about your body. Okay, how long did
it take you to come up with your list?
A. Less than 15 seconds
B. Under a minute
C. About five minutes
D. I'm still thinking
2. How often do you weigh yourself?
A. Never
B. Once a month
C. Once a week
D. Almost every day
3. What best describes your thoughts when you stand without clothes in front of a mirror?
A. "Boy, am I hot, or what?"
B. "Hmmm... My (body part) is kind of nice."
C. "I've got to do something about my (body part)."
D. I would never stand without clothes in front of a mirror
4. What are you most likely to wear to a rollicking party?
A. Something slinky that shows off my curves
B. An outfit with a fitted silhouette
C. Something loose and comfortable
D. An outfit that hides my (body part)
5. How often do you choose not to participate in an activity (go to a party or swim, for example) because of your body shape or size?
A. Never
B. Rarely
C. Sometimes
D. Frequently
6. When you make love, do you:
A. Delight in your partner's enjoyment of your body?
B. Have fleeting doubts about your attractiveness to your partner?
C. Cringe when your partner touches your (body part)?
D. Insist upon turning off the lights first?
7. When you receive a compliment about your appearance, do you feel:
A. Deserving
B. Flattered
C. Suspicious
D. Incredulous
8. What is your response when a friend or co-worker complains about how fat she is?
A. "Get over it!"
B. "You look terrific to me."
C. "I know exactly what you mean."
D. "Let's join that new diet center tomorrow."
Scoring:
Add up your total number of points, according to the following scale:
A = 6 points, B = 4 points, C = 2 points and D = 0 points.
40+ points:
Body Politic: You go, girl! You've overcome the negativity in the world around you and are proud of your curves. Your confidence and your determination to live your life fully are admirable. Maybe you should consider writing a book, giving a workshop or finding other ways to share your success with those who struggle with body image issues.
25 - 39 points:
Body Beautiful: Virtually everyone has days when they feel less than attractive, but you're well on your way to loving every inch of your beautiful body. Remember to give yourself a break and take a look at the marvelous variety of body types around you. Think about the aspects of your body you with which you are less than pleased, and come up with affirmations to counteract the negative thoughts you might have. Stand in front of a mirror twice a day and repeat the affirmations - you'll eventually believe them!
10 - 24 points:
Body Shop: You need to do some repairs to your body image. Start focusing on the positive instead of the negative, and remember that your self-esteem is linked to the way you perceive your body. Don't let the way you feel about your body prevent you from getting all you want out of life. Take the time to look your very best and drink in the compliments of those around you. Remind yourself that you deserve the accolades, and replay them in your mind when you're feeling negative. Eventually, you'll begin to believe your own press!
9 points or less:
Body Blow: Life is too short to feel so badly about your body. You need to understand that your body, with all its seeming "imperfections" is a miracle. Try and open yourself to the possibility that you are fine just the way you are. Read related books, see a therapist that specializes in body image issues and seek support from friends in your journey. It takes work to get to a place of self-acceptance, but the rewards are immeasurable.
Sally E. Smith is the editor-in-chief of BBW Magazine and BBW Magazine Online (http://www.bbwmagazine.com). BBW Magazine Online provides plus-size women with information and resources on fashion, plus-size modeling, health, beauty, career, finance, and - most of all - fun!
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Author: Sally Smith
Every woman, regardless of her size, has body image issues. But this is especially true for plus-size women. Because women's bodies are constantly scrutinized and commented upon, and Madison Avenue and the media promote unrealistic ideals, how could it be otherwise?
In reality, our bodies - no matter what their shape or size - are wondrous things. They keep us moving through our world, they have an amazing capacity to heal themselves and they are intriguing in their diversity of beauty.
Take this quiz to discover what your body image says about you:
1. Think of three things you love about your body. Okay, how long did
it take you to come up with your list?
A. Less than 15 seconds
B. Under a minute
C. About five minutes
D. I'm still thinking
2. How often do you weigh yourself?
A. Never
B. Once a month
C. Once a week
D. Almost every day
3. What best describes your thoughts when you stand without clothes in front of a mirror?
A. "Boy, am I hot, or what?"
B. "Hmmm... My (body part) is kind of nice."
C. "I've got to do something about my (body part)."
D. I would never stand without clothes in front of a mirror
4. What are you most likely to wear to a rollicking party?
A. Something slinky that shows off my curves
B. An outfit with a fitted silhouette
C. Something loose and comfortable
D. An outfit that hides my (body part)
5. How often do you choose not to participate in an activity (go to a party or swim, for example) because of your body shape or size?
A. Never
B. Rarely
C. Sometimes
D. Frequently
6. When you make love, do you:
A. Delight in your partner's enjoyment of your body?
B. Have fleeting doubts about your attractiveness to your partner?
C. Cringe when your partner touches your (body part)?
D. Insist upon turning off the lights first?
7. When you receive a compliment about your appearance, do you feel:
A. Deserving
B. Flattered
C. Suspicious
D. Incredulous
8. What is your response when a friend or co-worker complains about how fat she is?
A. "Get over it!"
B. "You look terrific to me."
C. "I know exactly what you mean."
D. "Let's join that new diet center tomorrow."
Scoring:
Add up your total number of points, according to the following scale:
A = 6 points, B = 4 points, C = 2 points and D = 0 points.
40+ points:
Body Politic: You go, girl! You've overcome the negativity in the world around you and are proud of your curves. Your confidence and your determination to live your life fully are admirable. Maybe you should consider writing a book, giving a workshop or finding other ways to share your success with those who struggle with body image issues.
25 - 39 points:
Body Beautiful: Virtually everyone has days when they feel less than attractive, but you're well on your way to loving every inch of your beautiful body. Remember to give yourself a break and take a look at the marvelous variety of body types around you. Think about the aspects of your body you with which you are less than pleased, and come up with affirmations to counteract the negative thoughts you might have. Stand in front of a mirror twice a day and repeat the affirmations - you'll eventually believe them!
10 - 24 points:
Body Shop: You need to do some repairs to your body image. Start focusing on the positive instead of the negative, and remember that your self-esteem is linked to the way you perceive your body. Don't let the way you feel about your body prevent you from getting all you want out of life. Take the time to look your very best and drink in the compliments of those around you. Remind yourself that you deserve the accolades, and replay them in your mind when you're feeling negative. Eventually, you'll begin to believe your own press!
9 points or less:
Body Blow: Life is too short to feel so badly about your body. You need to understand that your body, with all its seeming "imperfections" is a miracle. Try and open yourself to the possibility that you are fine just the way you are. Read related books, see a therapist that specializes in body image issues and seek support from friends in your journey. It takes work to get to a place of self-acceptance, but the rewards are immeasurable.
Sally E. Smith is the editor-in-chief of BBW Magazine and BBW Magazine Online (http://www.bbwmagazine.com). BBW Magazine Online provides plus-size women with information and resources on fashion, plus-size modeling, health, beauty, career, finance, and - most of all - fun!
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Thursday, May 6, 2010
Bedtime and Kids: Is The Best Discipline Spanking?
Bedtime and Kids: Is The Best Discipline Spanking?
By Kelly Nault
Parenting Question:
"Kelly, I’ve got five words for you: bedtime, kids, discipline, spanking and HELP! Our two sons are next to impossible to get to bed at night, and in the last while we’ve started spanking them. We’ve always threatened to, but really didn’t have to follow through. But when it started taking over 90 minutes to get them to bed, enough was enough! Now they are trying to hit us back, run around and it’s exhausting. I don’t know if you can help, but I would like to know what you might suggest."
—Frazzled Bedtime Mom (and Dad!)
Positive Parenting Tip From Kelly Nault:
Dear Frustrated Mom:
Sounds like your family is burning the midnight oil and the fuel that is firing up this conflict is your sons’ goal of power. The only question is, who will win?
My goal is to have you all win.
Resolving bedtime struggles is a common question and is an epidemic problem that plagues most households. If it’s not one more story, it’s “ten more minutes” of their favorite TV show or dawdling in the bathroom. Children will also manage to get their babysitters to let them stay up long past their bedtime. To avoid being conned or manipulated try my approach:
1. Tell Them What You Are Going To Do.
Say something like, “Part of what I love to do with you is read stories at bedtime, but sometimes I feel frustrated when bedtime takes a lot longer than it needs to be. So from now on I will be at your bedside promptly at ____p.m. to tuck you in. If you are not there at that time all ready to be tucked in, I will start getting ready for bed myself. If you would like a hug, you can come and find me for a quick one, but I will not return to your room.”
2. Follow Through.
As you stated, be in their room on time. If you feel it's necessary, give them one five-minute warning. If they aren't ready at the specified time, leave—and be prepared to keep your mouth shut at all costs (regardless of tears, angry words, or pleads to be tucked in). Go into the bathroom, lock the door and get ready yourself. Give them one hug if they ask, then continue with your tasks. If they try to get you involved, simply say, “I’ll be happy to speak with you in the morning. Sweet dreams.” And that is all.
Lastly, know that your children will test you. Chances are your two boys will test you hard! Fortunately, this gives you the opportunity to be consistent in your new approach to discipline, kids, spanking and bedtime. As soon as your children realize that you are consistent in your new way to put them to bed, they will have no choice but to change their own.
Kelly Nault, MA author of When You’re About To Go Off The Deep End, Don’t Take Your Kids With You inspires moms to put themselves first—for the sake of their children. She shares time-tested tools that motivate children to want to be well behaved, responsible and happy! Sign up for her free online parenting course here.
You are free to print or publish this article provided the article and bio remain as written and include a link to www.mommymoments.com as shown above.
By Kelly Nault
Parenting Question:
"Kelly, I’ve got five words for you: bedtime, kids, discipline, spanking and HELP! Our two sons are next to impossible to get to bed at night, and in the last while we’ve started spanking them. We’ve always threatened to, but really didn’t have to follow through. But when it started taking over 90 minutes to get them to bed, enough was enough! Now they are trying to hit us back, run around and it’s exhausting. I don’t know if you can help, but I would like to know what you might suggest."
—Frazzled Bedtime Mom (and Dad!)
Positive Parenting Tip From Kelly Nault:
Dear Frustrated Mom:
Sounds like your family is burning the midnight oil and the fuel that is firing up this conflict is your sons’ goal of power. The only question is, who will win?
My goal is to have you all win.
Resolving bedtime struggles is a common question and is an epidemic problem that plagues most households. If it’s not one more story, it’s “ten more minutes” of their favorite TV show or dawdling in the bathroom. Children will also manage to get their babysitters to let them stay up long past their bedtime. To avoid being conned or manipulated try my approach:
1. Tell Them What You Are Going To Do.
Say something like, “Part of what I love to do with you is read stories at bedtime, but sometimes I feel frustrated when bedtime takes a lot longer than it needs to be. So from now on I will be at your bedside promptly at ____p.m. to tuck you in. If you are not there at that time all ready to be tucked in, I will start getting ready for bed myself. If you would like a hug, you can come and find me for a quick one, but I will not return to your room.”
2. Follow Through.
As you stated, be in their room on time. If you feel it's necessary, give them one five-minute warning. If they aren't ready at the specified time, leave—and be prepared to keep your mouth shut at all costs (regardless of tears, angry words, or pleads to be tucked in). Go into the bathroom, lock the door and get ready yourself. Give them one hug if they ask, then continue with your tasks. If they try to get you involved, simply say, “I’ll be happy to speak with you in the morning. Sweet dreams.” And that is all.
Lastly, know that your children will test you. Chances are your two boys will test you hard! Fortunately, this gives you the opportunity to be consistent in your new approach to discipline, kids, spanking and bedtime. As soon as your children realize that you are consistent in your new way to put them to bed, they will have no choice but to change their own.
Kelly Nault, MA author of When You’re About To Go Off The Deep End, Don’t Take Your Kids With You inspires moms to put themselves first—for the sake of their children. She shares time-tested tools that motivate children to want to be well behaved, responsible and happy! Sign up for her free online parenting course here.
You are free to print or publish this article provided the article and bio remain as written and include a link to www.mommymoments.com as shown above.
Buying Baby Furniture Tips and Tricks
Buying Baby Furniture Tips And Tricks
Author: Sally Jean MyersThere is little doubt that a large portion of Young Parent's budget will be spent on Baby Furniture for the Baby Nursery. However, there are many ways to save money by purchasing your Baby Nursery Furniture and other Baby Items used, or new at discounted prices.
In most cases Baby Items of all types and descriptions can be purchased for pennies on the dollar if you know where to look. Babies cost a fortune and it is wise to think used especially for the items that your baby will out grow fast.
Yes, Baby Nursery Furniture can be very expensive when bought new, however I will be giving you ideas and tips on where to shop that will help you save a bundle, and still outfit your Baby Nursery in style.
Before I get into telling you where find great bargains on Baby Nursery Furniture and other Baby Items, I want to caution you about a few things first. If you are looking at used Baby Nursery Furniture you need to check for scratches, dents, peeling paint, missing parts, and always keep your baby's safety in mind. Older Baby Furniture may have lead paint so you need to check it out closely.
Wholesale Outlets:
If you want to buy new Baby Nursery Furniture you may want to check out the local Wholesale Outlets and see what inventory they have in stock. Sometimes they will offer Name Brand overruns or discontinued models at very good prices as compared to normal Baby Furniture retail stores.
Consignment Stores:
I have found several great buys at the local consignment store including Changing Tables, as well as Baby Playpens. You just never know what you will find in this type of store. Many times I have bought nice hardly used Name Brand Baby Items at stores like these, and saved a bundle.
Used Furniture Stores:
Used furniture stores are much like the consignment stores, but at times you may find Baby Furniture items that you may not find at other stores. I just thought it worth mentioning so you would know to check it out.
Yard Sales and Flea markets:
I have found quite a few good buys at both the Yard Sales and Flea Markets. The biggest inconvenience is you MUST get up early in the morning if you want to find the real bargains. There are so many people that shop this way, and you will simply have to beat the crowd if you want the best deals.
Newspaper Classified Ads:
If you get the newspaper early you can catch quite a few bargains on Baby Furniture, but again you need to be fast and call the sellers and ask questions about the item you are shopping for.
Online Classified Ads:
I like the online classifieds because it is easy to find Baby Furniture for sale close by. The online classified ads are usually organized by State and City, so it is easy to find items close to where you live. It is also easy to email sellers and ask questions about the item.
Online Auctions:
I will tell you now, this is my all time favorite place to buy Baby Furniture because the selection is great and for the most part the selection is almost endless. I can buy new and used Baby Furniture as well as other Baby Items all at the same place online. The largest of these Auctions is Ebay. You will need to read the information given by each Ebay Seller carefully so you don't miss any important details. Ebay Sellers are usually very honest and will let you know if there are any problems, missing pieces, scratches, or dents and such. If you have any questions about an item you will want to email the seller before bidding.
With this information you should be able to find many great deals on Baby Furniture as well as other Baby items for your Baby Nursery.
About the author: This Article was written by Sally Jean Myers, Mother of Six Children, Work at Home Mom, and the Owner of Baby Store Bargains Online. If you would like more information on Shopping for Baby Furniture Online as well as other Informative Baby related Articles please visit the Author's Website www.BabyStoreBargains.info
Article source: AWC Articles
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
How to Tell if a Guy Likes you - Five Signs He's Interested
Author: Tonja Weimer
How can you tell if a guy likes you or is interested? You noticed him when you were standing and talking with a friend. You think he noticed you, but maybe it was your imagination or just wishful thinking. He looked at you at about the same time you saw him. Your eyes met for just a few seconds, and then you looked away. When you looked back up, he was talking with some other people. Was he watching you as you mingled? Or were you making that up? How can you tell if a guy likes you? Why are guys so hard to read?
Here are five signs that he is interested in you too. If any of the following happens, he is probably trying to get close enough to ask you out:
1. He tells someone
Is he interested? He likes you if he tells a mutual friend that he wants to know more about you, or he asks other people who you are and where you're from. He is trying to act like he's "just asking" but his questions indicate more than a casual interest. And when he tells someone that he finds you attractive, he probably knows that it will get back to you. He's hoping it does.
2. The look
He gives you a look that betrays his calm exterior. Even though he is across the room, "that look" he has says it all. It is sweeping, from your head to your toes, and then his eyes linger on yours. You think you notice the beginning of a tentative smile.
3. The conversation
Does he like you? When he manages to get close enough to you, to ask you questions, he is interested. He appears to be listening and responds to what you say. He's moving in to the ultimate question, which is: "Are you seeing anyone." He would only ask this question if he wanted to date you, and he hopes the answer is "No." Never ever wear a ring in public. When a guy is across the room, he cannot tell which finger it is on and he may assume incorrectly that you are taken. If he doesn't ask you the question of whether or not you are attached, he may ask someone whom you both know.
4. He appears unexpectedly
He likes you a lot if he shows up out of nowhere. He can only do that if he has been asking people about your schedule, or he has been paying attention to where you are going and at what time. His face may turn red when he sees you. A sudden, "Oh, hi," is his way of saying, "I don't want to seem obvious, but I am interested in you." If you feel the same way, do not act shy. Stop and talk to him.
5. EVERYONE likes you
Is he interested? When you are well liked and a happy person, why wouldn't he like you? Of course he does. If you don't have a great life, however, now is your time to start working on one. Take a look at your career possibilities, body image, future, plans, and resources. You may be naturally talented at something, but it won't matter unless you work on your strengths. Misused or unused talents fade away. School and training do not.
These are the five signs that he is interested and he is on the verge of asking you out. Make it easy for him and be friendly. This is where relationships begin.
Do you want to know more secrets about how to attract men? Do you know how to dress, what to say, what to do, and the body language to use when you go out? Do you know the 5 steps to take to meet any guy anywhere? Read on to discover all the secrets to having all the dates you want in How To Attract Men: Secrets Every Woman Should Know
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/how-to-tell-if-a-guy-likes-you-five-signs-hes-interested-320593.html
How can you tell if a guy likes you or is interested? You noticed him when you were standing and talking with a friend. You think he noticed you, but maybe it was your imagination or just wishful thinking. He looked at you at about the same time you saw him. Your eyes met for just a few seconds, and then you looked away. When you looked back up, he was talking with some other people. Was he watching you as you mingled? Or were you making that up? How can you tell if a guy likes you? Why are guys so hard to read?
Here are five signs that he is interested in you too. If any of the following happens, he is probably trying to get close enough to ask you out:
1. He tells someone
Is he interested? He likes you if he tells a mutual friend that he wants to know more about you, or he asks other people who you are and where you're from. He is trying to act like he's "just asking" but his questions indicate more than a casual interest. And when he tells someone that he finds you attractive, he probably knows that it will get back to you. He's hoping it does.
2. The look
He gives you a look that betrays his calm exterior. Even though he is across the room, "that look" he has says it all. It is sweeping, from your head to your toes, and then his eyes linger on yours. You think you notice the beginning of a tentative smile.
3. The conversation
Does he like you? When he manages to get close enough to you, to ask you questions, he is interested. He appears to be listening and responds to what you say. He's moving in to the ultimate question, which is: "Are you seeing anyone." He would only ask this question if he wanted to date you, and he hopes the answer is "No." Never ever wear a ring in public. When a guy is across the room, he cannot tell which finger it is on and he may assume incorrectly that you are taken. If he doesn't ask you the question of whether or not you are attached, he may ask someone whom you both know.
4. He appears unexpectedly
He likes you a lot if he shows up out of nowhere. He can only do that if he has been asking people about your schedule, or he has been paying attention to where you are going and at what time. His face may turn red when he sees you. A sudden, "Oh, hi," is his way of saying, "I don't want to seem obvious, but I am interested in you." If you feel the same way, do not act shy. Stop and talk to him.
5. EVERYONE likes you
Is he interested? When you are well liked and a happy person, why wouldn't he like you? Of course he does. If you don't have a great life, however, now is your time to start working on one. Take a look at your career possibilities, body image, future, plans, and resources. You may be naturally talented at something, but it won't matter unless you work on your strengths. Misused or unused talents fade away. School and training do not.
These are the five signs that he is interested and he is on the verge of asking you out. Make it easy for him and be friendly. This is where relationships begin.
Do you want to know more secrets about how to attract men? Do you know how to dress, what to say, what to do, and the body language to use when you go out? Do you know the 5 steps to take to meet any guy anywhere? Read on to discover all the secrets to having all the dates you want in How To Attract Men: Secrets Every Woman Should Know
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/how-to-tell-if-a-guy-likes-you-five-signs-hes-interested-320593.html
Monday, May 3, 2010
10 Crucial and Surprising Steps to Build Trust in a Relationship
10 Crucial and Surprising Steps to Build Trust in a Relationship
Relationships often suffer hiccups caused among others by mistrust, lack of communication, monotony and boredom. Any of these reasons can create a crisis situation. Scarred by crisis unless repaired with tact and diplomacy can create an relationship. Here are ten ways to help you rebuild the rocky relationship.
1. Behavior and trust.
Any movement away from predictable behavior can become suspect and trust can deteriorate. Focus on acting predictably if you need to build trust. If there is a twinkle in your eye and a dose of spontaneity every so often, for goodness sakes be spontaneous and fun loving.
2. Life can get very squirrelly and unpredictable.
I have a favorite phrase: Gold is refined through intense heat. Growth in an individual, marriage or family often is accompanied by a little chaos at times heated.
3. Make sure your words match the message.
Mean what you say and say what you mean. You respond to the real message. You can take this one step further, if you like. At some point you might bring up her need for affirmation and talk about that.
Trust is awareness of the intent beneath the obvious message and responding to that!
4. The truth maybe be bitter but is never destructive
With that said, what we believe to be the truth may indeed be a distorted perception that fits our personal needs.
5. Be extra careful of keeping secrets.
Secrets demand tremendous energy and erode trust. The relationship is doomed never to experience wall-banging intimacy. Now, please. You do so without emotional charge.
6. Let YOUR needs be known - loudly.
Be a little - no, a lot - self-centered.
Doesn't work. Trust disintegrates under a blanket of quiet niceties. Start with your eyes focused on YOU. What do YOU need? Explore your personal need system.
Say to him: "I need…x, y and z. I would like to talk to you about them. I would like us to work out a way so my needs are met. Are you open to that?"
Have you ever been around someone who stated clearly what they needed/wanted?
Didn't you respect that person? Because you knew where he stood, and therefore where you stood, didn't that interaction move toward a trusting relationship?
7. Trust in a relationship
You build trust in a relationship by entrusting your SELF to the other person. You converse about things/relationships/events out there. This more often than not creates trust barriers.
What are your standards for a relationship? What standards do you hold for yourself? What do you order your life around? What are the 4 top values in your life?
8. Destructive behavior
You refuse to allow the destructive behaviors of others to destroy you. You build a moat around the core of your life. You request they stop. If they don't stop, you demand they stop.
Fear is the basis of mistrust. If you fear that someone will hurt you and believe you have no recourse but to endure that hurt, fear will prevail. How can you trust when you are in fear?
9. Charge Neutral
When your significant other expresses something powerfully, charge neutral. Most of us are afraid of strong feelings or points of contention in a relationship. Of course, the relationship remains stuck in this quagmire of mistrust and fear. Control your voice! It will dramatically change the flow of the relationship.
This not only feels great, but your partner trusts that you won't fly or fall apart. You will experience your personal power. This makes you very attractive.
Don't people really trust someone who knows their personal power and how to use it for the welfare of themselves and others? Your partner will love the fact that she can trust you consistently to operate from your "quiet center," remain engaged, not back down and speak the truth with conviction and calmness.
10. Dig into the dirt
Relationships of emotional investment, by their nature, bring trials, tribulations, fears, chaos, turmoil, change, stretching and growth. Dig into the dirt of your relationship and uncover the treasures.
Do you really TRUST that this can happen? The purpose of your relationship is not to make you happy. Trust that in this embracing you will find more of your true self. Trust that you are given the resources and capacity to face what you and your significant other would face. Once you are able to believe and trust these ultimate purposes, trusting your significant other will be that much more easy.
For more info on the subject Click HERE!
Relationships often suffer hiccups caused among others by mistrust, lack of communication, monotony and boredom. Any of these reasons can create a crisis situation. Scarred by crisis unless repaired with tact and diplomacy can create an relationship. Here are ten ways to help you rebuild the rocky relationship.
1. Behavior and trust.
Any movement away from predictable behavior can become suspect and trust can deteriorate. Focus on acting predictably if you need to build trust. If there is a twinkle in your eye and a dose of spontaneity every so often, for goodness sakes be spontaneous and fun loving.
2. Life can get very squirrelly and unpredictable.
I have a favorite phrase: Gold is refined through intense heat. Growth in an individual, marriage or family often is accompanied by a little chaos at times heated.
3. Make sure your words match the message.
Mean what you say and say what you mean. You respond to the real message. You can take this one step further, if you like. At some point you might bring up her need for affirmation and talk about that.
Trust is awareness of the intent beneath the obvious message and responding to that!
4. The truth maybe be bitter but is never destructive
With that said, what we believe to be the truth may indeed be a distorted perception that fits our personal needs.
5. Be extra careful of keeping secrets.
Secrets demand tremendous energy and erode trust. The relationship is doomed never to experience wall-banging intimacy. Now, please. You do so without emotional charge.
6. Let YOUR needs be known - loudly.
Be a little - no, a lot - self-centered.
Doesn't work. Trust disintegrates under a blanket of quiet niceties. Start with your eyes focused on YOU. What do YOU need? Explore your personal need system.
Say to him: "I need…x, y and z. I would like to talk to you about them. I would like us to work out a way so my needs are met. Are you open to that?"
Have you ever been around someone who stated clearly what they needed/wanted?
Didn't you respect that person? Because you knew where he stood, and therefore where you stood, didn't that interaction move toward a trusting relationship?
7. Trust in a relationship
You build trust in a relationship by entrusting your SELF to the other person. You converse about things/relationships/events out there. This more often than not creates trust barriers.
What are your standards for a relationship? What standards do you hold for yourself? What do you order your life around? What are the 4 top values in your life?
8. Destructive behavior
You refuse to allow the destructive behaviors of others to destroy you. You build a moat around the core of your life. You request they stop. If they don't stop, you demand they stop.
Fear is the basis of mistrust. If you fear that someone will hurt you and believe you have no recourse but to endure that hurt, fear will prevail. How can you trust when you are in fear?
9. Charge Neutral
When your significant other expresses something powerfully, charge neutral. Most of us are afraid of strong feelings or points of contention in a relationship. Of course, the relationship remains stuck in this quagmire of mistrust and fear. Control your voice! It will dramatically change the flow of the relationship.
This not only feels great, but your partner trusts that you won't fly or fall apart. You will experience your personal power. This makes you very attractive.
Don't people really trust someone who knows their personal power and how to use it for the welfare of themselves and others? Your partner will love the fact that she can trust you consistently to operate from your "quiet center," remain engaged, not back down and speak the truth with conviction and calmness.
10. Dig into the dirt
Relationships of emotional investment, by their nature, bring trials, tribulations, fears, chaos, turmoil, change, stretching and growth. Dig into the dirt of your relationship and uncover the treasures.
Do you really TRUST that this can happen? The purpose of your relationship is not to make you happy. Trust that in this embracing you will find more of your true self. Trust that you are given the resources and capacity to face what you and your significant other would face. Once you are able to believe and trust these ultimate purposes, trusting your significant other will be that much more easy.
For more info on the subject Click HERE!
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